Dear Dr. Mimi:
I work hard. I do good work. My coworkers even let me know that they value what I do … and my boss never says a word. In fact, he rarely even thanks me. We don’t even get annual reviews. It is so frustrating. Is there anything that I can do?
You are not alone. Many managers underestimate the power of a pat on the back, especially with top performers who are intrinsically motivated. Ask for a review and come prepared to let him know all that you do and how well you do it. Be specific, pointing out particular projects and accomplishments. In addition, let him know that while you are motivated from within, it would be good to hear some positive words and a thank-you periodically.