Archive for the ‘Dear Dr. Mimi’ Category

Dear Dr. Mimi- Technical, Not Personal

Dear Dr. Mimi: I have been told that I have excellent technical skills but that my interpersonal skills will get in the way of advancing my career. Do you have any advice about working with people? (I wish I did not have to!) —Technical, Not Personal Dear Technical: No matter what your career, you need […]

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Dear Dr. Mimi- New and Naive

Dear Dr. Mimi: I am starting a new job in a new city and would like to get to know my co-workers better. Are there any questions that I can use as conversation starters that would not be considered too personal? —New and Naïve Dear N and N: It is good that you want to […]

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Compassion vs. Two Types of Empathy

Compassion and empathy are two different emotional responses. Compassion is defined as understanding someone’s suffering and trying to alleviate it. Empathy is feeling another’s emotions, understanding exactly how they feel, and “knowing” what they are going through. Empathy allows us to understand and share what others are going through. As humans, we often try to […]

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What Is Self-Compassion?

What is self-compassion? Self-Compassion is the ability to accept love, face failure, and understand your emotions. With self-compassion, you treat yourself as you would treat others. Instead of beating yourself up and having negative emotions, you think: how can I care for myself in this present moment? Self-compassion creates many positive physiological effects. It can […]

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What Does Dr. Mimi Really Do???

People often ask me, “What exactly do you do?” I say, “I’m a psychologist that specializes in the workplace.” I still get curious looks! I realize that my background is different. I have a doctorate in Psychology, and a doctoral minor in Management from the Business School at UF. I have spent my career working […]

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Dear Dr. Mimi – Hurt

Dear Dr. Mimi: My co-worker and I and our husbands have been friends for years, and we go out to dinner together weekly. Last week, my husband and I canceled. She seemed fine until I saw her in the office. When I asked if everything was all right, she blew up on me about canceling […]

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Dear Dr. Mimi – Raise Needed

Dear Dr. Mimi: I have heard talk that several co-workers received raises in the past couple of months. I haven’t been approached about a raise, yet I do double the work. I stay later and arrive earlier than my co-workers and am one of the only employees to always submit my reviews on time. My […]

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Dear Dr. Mimi – Do You Feel Insecure?

Dear Dr. Mimi: My boss keeps asking me why I don’t apply for a higher position. It is because I know that I’m not smart. I do work extremely hard and seem to do fine where I am. Thankfully, I had a mentor when I got this job. I lack confidence and fear it will […]

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Dear Dr. Mimi – Clock-Watcher

Dear Dr. Mimi: Is it illegal for me to clock in for work but not actually work? The last few days, I’ll clock in, but just sit at my desk. I play on my phone, check the clock periodically and clock out at my given time. I know it’s wrong, but I can’t bring myself […]

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You Must and Can Improve!

Throughout your life, you have acquired skills, abilities, and knowledge from your education, job, social situations, and experiences. These may include leadership, confidence, technology, teamwork, and, most importantly, the ability to learn. To advance in today’s world, you must both acquire new skills and improve the ones you have. First, recognize the skills that you […]

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