They Talk Too Much!

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         Being outgoing and friendly (a DISC High I) are admirable traits. Building relationships is important. However too much of a good thing is still too much. We have all known people who ask if you have a minute and 30 minutes later, you are still being talked to.
         What can you do? Here are some helpful hints.
         • Set and maintain clear boundaries with everyone. Their feelings will get hurt if they          think you are singling them out.
         • Don’t be available. Don’t look up when they pass your cubicle. If they do come in,             stand to greet them and don’t invite them to sit down.
          • Close your office door when you need to complete a project or simply don’t want             to be disturbed.
          • Keep them focused on work. “What can I do for you?” is a more task-oriented                  question than, “How are you?”
         • When asked if you have five minutes, either say, “No, I wish I did” or “Yes, but just            five minutes.” (Then look at your watch for emphasis.)
         • Have a heart to heart confidential talk. These friendly people want to please. Let               them know you enjoy them and you need to get your work done. Suggest getting              together during a slow time for lunch or coffee to catch up.

         You may be wondering how these people get their work done. They work with bursts of enthusiasm with slack periods in between. Taking time to chat is how they get their energy. They may stay late, when no one is around, to get their work done and interestingly, they do get it done!


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