Starting a job that is new to you has perks, but being the new person can also be lonely. In some scenarios, your new colleagues will welcome you with open arms. But in many cases, building relationships within the workplace isn’t that simple. Whether it feels as if everybody at the office has been friends forever or you are not the most social person, follow these steps to break the ice with your coworkers.
Be the person you would want to be friends with. Don’t take yourself too seriously, it is easy to be funny without being snarky or mean and still seem like a genuinely nice person. Next time you walk into the office feeling grumpy, ask yourself, “Would I want to hang out with myself right now?” If the answer to your question is no, there is a chance that your coworkers are feeling the same way.
Take the initiative. Once you and your coworkers have gotten to know each other, even a little bit, do not be afraid to invite them to go out to lunch or take a break together. Don’t wait to be asked. There are probably people that would love to ask you to lunch but are too shy or introverted. Reach out and they will be most appreciative.
Be open to new friendships along with inviting. Look for people who are different from you and strike up a conversation. Ask an open-ended question. Give sincere compliments. Ask how they spent their weekend, or where they like to eat. Be sincere while asking these questions and be sure to listen to their answers. Show that you are interested in them, their hobbies or their family life. The more you learn things about a colleague, the easier future conversations will be .